my secret

[wasthere]

I realize now more than ever that I married my husband for his money...the security and lifestyle he could give me. Initially I thought I loved him, but I've come to see I was fooling myself.

[gotcha]

I think a lot of people do a lot of different things to bolster themselves and feel safe & secure. In some ways thats only natural. What do you plan to do from this point?

[sailaway]

What allowed you to realize this about your actions and yourself?

[gotcha]

You are being ask a lot of big questions wasthere.

[dellaone2]

I agree with gotcha. The point is to relieve yourself of a secret, not have to explain yourself.

[wasthere]

Thank you all for your comments. Sharing here has been part of me getting more honest with myself. Has this disclosure here made a big difference? Yes and no. In and of itself it hasn't created a huge change. But the reality is sharing, reading peoples comments helps nurture something important that is happening in me already.

[sbo]

it sounds like these are difficult but important times for you wasthere. thanks for being part of this discussion board.

[chicagirl]

I agree with sbo, sounds like some big stuff is happening for with. Hopefully you learn and grow with it.

[hoptoit]

I know friends and have met a ton of girls who are so money driven. They only date guys who have or seem to have a lot of money. They seem rather sad to me as well as they guy who only have money to offer.

[duncan]

Its not really the money thats the problem. Its if thats all its about on either end. Hooking up is one thing, but money will hardly be enough over time.

[greenthumb]

I think all of us look for the easy way from time to time. Its easy to believe having lots of money will take care of all the other issues that come up...even in a relationship.